Why I’m Considering Dating Outside My Race

interracial-coupleFor many, many, MANY years, I have been a ride or die for the black man. For me, there’s just something about a dark-skinned man that really sparks every fiber in my being and gets me all hot and bothered just by seeing one.

If you know me personally, you would know that I have a thing for, no wait an obsession for a dark man. You know the Morris Chestnuts and Idris Elbas of the world. Well, since I’ve been single for over three years, I’ve started to have a little change of heart when it comes to only considering black men. I think I want to play in the snow a bit, you know try something different. Not that I’m giving up on black men, but I want to expand my horizon and not just deprive myself of what else is out there.

As I look at the black man, they aren’t afraid to play in the snow, Asia, China, Mexico or wherever they choose to play, but then there are black women like me that are holding on for dear life just waiting for a black man to be my King.

I have to admit, a few years ago, you would’ve never heard me say anything like this and oh, how times have changed?! LOL. I used to feel some type of way about the whole interracial thing and didn’t want my race to “die out” per say, but it’s not like I’ve never been exposed to it. I have two cousins who are both married to and one has children with someone outside their race. I have seen it from both sides, male and female cousin that married white counterparts, and they have been together forever, but it’s not necessarily that that sparked the change in me either.

A friend of mine on Facebook invited me to like this page called “Interracial Dating” and there people share lots of beautiful love stories about how they are with someone that is not of their race and every time I see a story it warms my heart. It’s like against all odds, these couples have made it and most of them have been together for years and have families, etc., so I’m sitting here like ‘hmmmm, maybe I should give this a try too.’

We were all taught that “love sees no color” and it truly doesn’t, but when you grow up around those that are most like you, you tend to stray away from that and only see yourself falling in love with and starting a family with someone that is more like you.

Well, I’ve had a change of heart and am no longer going to limit myself to just black men. Not saying I’m going to stop dating them altogether just to go play in the snow, but I’m saying the next time a man outside my race hits on me or ask me out I’m going to go and give it a try. See what it’s like. There are some women in the entertainment industry that I admire who have found love in others outside their race and they are happier than ever, rapper Eve being the most recent.

I said all that to say that it’s time for black women to stop limiting ourselves. Yes, we would love to be with a black man and have beautiful black babies, but the truth of the matter is they have and will always do whomever they want no matter what race and create tons of mixed breeds while we sit here twiddling our thumbs waiting on our black king.

Life is too short to wait forever on love and since love sees no color it shouldn’t matter what race he is as long as he treats you like the queen you deserve to be treated. I’m actually looking forward to seeing what it’s like and if there is truly any difference. I’ve heard that European men really know how to treat a lady. As soon as I get the opportunity, I’m gone find out and I’ll let y’all know.

Until next time!!!

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