Top 10 Relationship Deal Breakers
A few years ago, I did a post on relationship deal breakers. To my surprise, things have changed a little for me in 2017.
If you’re currently in a relationship, you already know the struggle it is at times to keep things together. Although I’m currently single, and have been for the last year or so, I’m already thinking about deal breakers. My last relationship, which only lasted 5 months, taught me a lot and also curved my deal breakers. Showed me a lot about signs and things to really look out for next go-round.
So, here are my top 10 relationship deal breakers for 2017:
10. Mama’s Boy:
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with him loving his mama. In fact, I love a man who really does love his mama, but if she comes before me, he gotta go. If you watch Love & Hip Hop Atlanta, you’ll see the struggle Mama Dee goes through with her husband Ernest. He loves his mama so much he even told her she loves his mama more than her. No sir. Bye Lance.
9. Bad credit:
Now credit is something that can be fixed, but if you are one of those who just runs and doesn’t like paying your bills, you cannot be with me. I don’t have time to have everything in my damn name and jacking my shit up. I’m gone need you to get your life together.
8. Criminal past:
Now I know sometimes when you’re young you get in a little trouble, but if your background has some serious crimes attached to it, i.e. rape, murder, armed robbery, etc., you cannot date me… No sir. Find you a thug girl and keep it moving.
7. No car:
I recently met a guy who didn’t have a car and wanted me to come pick him up. Mind you, I know sometimes people have a hard time, but honey I can’t deal with you like that in the beginning. AND on top of that, dude said he didn’t even know how to drive. Ummmmm, where have you been? You’re over 25 and don’t know how to drive? That’s a problem for me. I live in the boondocks. I do not want to come and get you then bring you here and then take you back home and then back home myself. Naw. That’s tew murch!!!
6. Baby mama drama/multiple baby mamas:
Now I know at my age (mid thirties) most dudes have kids. If he has a kid, there’s a baby mama out there some where. I’m cool with that as long as you and her have an understanding and you’re doing what you’re supposed to do for your kids. BUT… If you have multiple kids with different chicks, that’s a no-no for me. Why you ask? Because honey, not only do I have to deal with you and your kids, but two or more other chicks attached to them kids. That’s too many folks to be dealing with on top of dealing with your family and homeboys.
5. Riding for the homies:
Speaking of homies, if you’re still ride or die for your homies I cannot… I will NOT date you. You’re still a little boy. You don’t know how to be a man and be there for your family. Family first… Homeboys fall somewhere between next to last and last on the list… Sorry not sorry.
If you just moved here with no job or in between jobs or have never worked or filed taxes, leave me alone. Ain’t nothing wrong with getting them coins the legal way. I don’t have time to be looking over my shoulder. I’m not bout to support your ass so you gotta have a check(s) coming from somewhere that are taxed with benefits, etc.
3. Shacking up:
One thing I refuse to do is shack up with you. If you can just up and move in with me all willy nilly, that’s a red flag for me. Like, where were you living before you met me? How is it that you can leave where you were to move in with me? Why can’t I move in with you? Sounds like to me you were looking for somewhere to stay anyway… BYE!!!
Cheating used to be number one in my book and although things have changed, it’s still in my top 2. Stay the hell ‘way from me if you have a hard time keeping your dick in your pants. I refuse to allow a man to scream how he wants a good, loyal woman, but sleeping with everything pitbull in a skirt.
1. Violent/substance abuse:
My last relationship made this my number one. I refuse to deal with a violent man or a man who has substance abuse issues. There’s nothing wrong with a drink or two after a hard day’s work, drinking socially or even hitting a blunt or two if that’s your thing. But if this is something you do daily and causes you to be violent, I refuse to deal with you. The best thing you can do for me is leave me the hell alone before I catch a case.
Relationships are truly hard work, bu they can work if you both work at it. If there’s any doubt, get out. You don’t have a lot of time to waste on the wrong person. Be clear about your deal breakers and stick to your guns.
What are some of your deal breakers???