In a world full of fornication and the notion that “sex sells,” saving oneself for marriage seems to be a thing of the past nowadays. Evander Holyfield‘s daughter, Evette Holyfield, has decided to go against the grain and maintain the morals and values taught by her father on saving herself for her husband. At 27, the stylist and designer has maintained her abstinence and vows to do so until she’s married.
Essence.com recently caught up with Evette for an exclusive interview on why she chooses to remain abstinent, which is something her father instilled in her at the tender age of six, and teaching young women on the importance of putting herself first.
Excerpts from the interview:
On when she decided to be abstinent until marriage:
We grew up in a Christian home. When I was around six years old, my dad said to me, “You don’t need to have sex outside of marriage.” He went through the whole spiel with me. So as I grew up, I thought, okay dad, if you don’t want me to do it, I’m not gonna do it. Then I started to really understand church – the words in the Bible and what the pastor is really saying. At that point, I wasn’t just doing it because my dad said don’t, but rather, I now believe that by waiting, God will bless me and bring me a great husband. I want to meet somebody amazing, and I know that if I do this, I’m doing this for him and I. That’s what I want.
On whether being abstinent is difficult:
Honestly, it’s easy for me. I was in a three-year relationship, and I never had those desires for him in that way. He never pressured me. In my mind, I already have it set that I’m not gonna do it, so if someone were to pressure me, it wouldn’t even phase me. I just don’t have those desires.
On encouraging other women to wait til marriage:
I have talked to young groups of kids at different schools about the keys to success, and one of the secrets I tell the young girls is to preserve themselves and their bodies and not to give them away to someone who doesn’t deserve it. I tell them to instead focus on themselves and their dreams because everything else will come after that. I feel like young girls these days are too focused on getting a man and not on empowering themselves. Guys are going to treat you how you allow them to, and if you don’t respect yourself and feel like you’re worth something, then you will feel like you should do whatever a man wants you to.
Ladies, could you save yourself until marriage? Or have you been saving yourself for marriage?