I spend what seems to be like countless hours on social media, but in this business it’s pretty much a way of life. There are some times when you run across something that is actually worthwhile and makes you think a little. It’s funny how at times I get so much confirmation from other people and sources about things my girlfriends and I might have just talked about days ago.

While surfing Facebook, I ran across one of Michael Baisden’s fan page statuses he posted a few days ago. It read:

“African American women are the most unappreciated women on the planet. Is it wise for them to wait for a man of their own race to be in a relationship? Meanwhile black men are dating whomever they please! Wake up ladies and expand your horizons.” ~ Michael Baisden 

My friends and I had a deep discussion a few weeks ago about stepping outside of our element and expanding our horizon as it relates to dating, love and marriage. A good friend recently started dating a guy she never even thought about looking at and now she’s the happiest she’s been in a long time. As a black woman, my only dream was to meet and fall madly in love with a handsome, loving, hardworking tall, dark chocolate black man who wants to get married and have at least two kids in our dream house on the hill and live happily ever after. Welp, that’s not how things have turned out as of now.
 After moving to a  new county here in Atlanta, I started seeing more interracial relationships than when I lived on the other side of town, and not just black men with other women, there were black women with white and mexican and latino men as well. Then while on vacation in Atlantic city, I saw tons of interracial relationships as well and it got me to really thinking hard about what Michael Baisden said. Did he really have a good point? Are black women just stuck on having a black man because it seems like the right thing to do or are we just scared of going outside our race?

As Michael Baisden said, “African American women are the most unappreciated women on the planet.” Every time I turn around, we’re being criticized for something. “Oh she too independent, she got too much attitude, she too fat, she has too much baggage, she has a smart mouth,” like all these other chicks don’t have the same issues.

It’s no secret that black men are for some reason infatuated with white women. It’s not that they are better than us in any way I guess it’s just something about the freedom of being able to or the fact that the media paints a much better picture of them unlike they do US. Like they’re not carbon copies of us anyway always trying to look like and act like us just to gain the attention of our black men. We’re portrayed in the media to be so stank when not all of us are like that. I mean you can’t just throw us in a box and say we’re all the same.

So why is it so hard for us to stray away from black men, but yet so easy for them to date white, spanish, mexican even asian chicks while we sit on the sideline hoping we can live happily ever after with our dream black man?

I would love to hear your thoughts. Have you ever dated or considered dating outside your race? If not, what’s stopping you from doing so?

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