R&B singer turned reality star turned entrepreneur, Kandi Burruss, stopped by a fellow Bravo housewife Bethenny Frankel’s new talk show to discuss one of her favorite topics: SEX. As we all know, everyone on Real Housewives of Atlanta looks at Kandi sideways because she’s very open about her sexuality, her use of bedroom toys, which led her to create her own “pleasure line” Bedroom Kandi, and not afraid to admit that she’s somewhat a freak between the sheets. But why is talking about sex so hush, hush in the black community? Here’s what Kandi had to say:

On being the voice for black women when it comes to sex:

“Well the crazy thing is I didn’t try to make it a race issue. I think because I’m black, obviously, I had alot of people come up to me and say “Did you realize you’re the face of black women being more liberated and talking about sex,” and I didn’t realize that until now. In our community, that black community, it is very hush hush to talk about sex. Everything is hush hush, like you can’t talk about that.”

On black men having mandingos:

“Black men a lot of times are not down with that at all because it’s this whole thing of ‘Black men are supposed to be swinging,’ which a lot of them are not! But they feel like ‘You don’t need that, I’m handling things around here.’ A lot of times men are pretty much guaranteed to get the “AHHHHH” moment. We don’t always get the “AHHHHH” moment every single time. So if we don’t get that every single time, why can’t we get a little bit of extra…?”

Kandi has a really good point, sex talk in the black community is a cardinal sin. When I was growing up, my mom made it seem so nasty and disgusting that I waited til I was 19 to even try it and even then I was scared to. Another thing I’m glad Kandi brought up is the fact that not all black men are swinging 9+ inches of good wood. In my single days, I ran across a couple toddler penises myself so I can definitely vouch for that.

Sex is a natural part of life, it happens eventually. Some good and some bad, but why is it so hush, hush in the black community? Why aren’t we as liberal to say we’re doing it or talk about using vibrators and dildos, and the biggest sin of all…. giving our man HEAD!!!???

Check out Kandi on Bethenney’s show:

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