Word on the curb has always been that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith have an open marriage, but the two have never addressed it until recently.
Jada sat down with Huffington Post Live earlier this month and made a statement that the entire world took out of context. All the other blogs went crazy and were talking all kinds of mess about them being in this “open relationship.”
I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay.
I guess Jada got sick of the rumors because she took it to her Facebook page to set the record straight by saying:
Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.
The statement I made in regard to, “Will can do whatever he wants,” has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.
Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?
Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE…for us???
Here is how I will change my statement…Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship…this means we have a GROWN one.
Marriage is supposed to be a sacred unity between two people, but over the years the whole idea of marriage has changed dramatically. People don’t all have the same standards as it relates to marriage/relationships and people must understand that every relationship is indeed different. What works for one couple may not work for another and vice versa, but it’s up to that couple to determine what makes their relationship strong and last long.
I totally agree with Jada and her statement about them having a “grown” relationship and honestly, it’s nobody’s business whether or not they have an open relationship or not. Apparently, it is were true, it has been working for them being they have been married well over 15 years.
I think it’s time for people to start worrying more about their own marriages and relationships instead of what’s going on in others. Most of us can’t even keep a mate because we’re too busy comparing our relationships to other folks relationship and in worse cases how things went in a past relationship.
It’s time for us to stay in our own lane and worry about keeping our own house in order. I’m just saying!!!
In case you missed the interview, click here.