B.S. Detector: 8 Ways To Catch Your Man In A Lie

Posted by TractHerTrailHer on July 5th, 2012

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One significant lie in a relationship can destroy it forever. But how good is your B.S. detector? The good news is with training everyone can increase their ability to spot lies. The following are the eight most effective ways to boost your skills and determine if someone is spitting authentic or fabricated game to you.

When the stakes are high, people will lie.

Context is everything. Keep in mind that whenever someone stands a lot to lose (like you) or a lot to gain (like you) they are more likely to lie.

Ask, “How Do You Feel?”

If you’re in a situation where you believe the person you’re speaking with “did it,” directly ask them “how do you feel about doing it.” The wrongly accused person will express anger and tell you so. The guilty person will typically express a range of emotions.

Watch for asymmetry.

When we naturally smile, frown, or shrug, it’s typically even and occurs on both sides of the body. Any gesture that is one-sided may be masking what the person is really feeling.

It’s all about the eyes!

Only one in ten people can move the muscles around their eyes to fake a smile. If they’re smiling at you but you see no movement (or what’s called “crow feet”) around the eyes, there is a high likelihood the person you’re talking to is masking their real feelings behind a fabricated smile.

Find out the other four over at Essence.com